The holidays are upon us! For many this is a time of rest, connecting, and celebrating. For others it is a time of feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and anxious. Sometimes it’s both.
If this is your first year without a loved one, it may feel uncomfortable or even unbearable. I see you.
If you are struggling with social anxiety and big gatherings seem like an impossible mountain to climb, I see you.
If you are overwhelmed trying to juggle planning a gathering, cooking, and cleaning, I see you.
If this is your first holiday without kids in the home, I see you.
If this is your first year divorced and you are spending it alone, I see you.
During the holidays, it is important to have the support you need and deserve. Here are some things to consider:
· Remember that your boundaries matter.
· Have social support you trust.
· Increase your coping skills.
· Check in with your therapist.
· Consider starting your day with mindfulness.
· Stretch, walk, move!
· Identify your support system.
· Write down your support plan.
· Our bodies have basic needs, and they matter.
· If you are uncomfortable, it’s okay to leave.
It is okay to both enjoy the holidays and struggle. Disruption in our daily lives and schedules can be a good thing, and it can also be a hard thing. It may take more energy than usual, and that’s okay. If you find that you need more support, reach out. Short-term counseling is an option. Do what you need to take care of you and make the most of the time you have with those you love.